Genre: Marriage, Interpersonal Relations
Publisher: Prescott Publishing, 2015
First Lines (from the Introduction):
Love God. Love others.When Jesus was asked to name the most important commandment, this was His reply in a nutshell.
Your wife is a reflection of your love for her.
- Do you wish she were more joyful and affectionate?
- Do you want her to show appreciation for all you do?
- Do you hunger for her admiration and respect?
- Are you wishing you could have more fun together?
- Would you like for your wife to stop nagging?
Then treat her the way you’d like to be treated.
I was interested in reading this book since it’s written by a man and I wanted to see if he would get it right. He does – entirely! With more than 25 years of marriage under his belt, Flanders offers a lot of insight to the man who truly wants to show love to his wife. Addressing the physical, the spiritual and the mental, each chapter presents not only valuable information, but also a practical action plan for implementation. This is helpful for men who, as a gender, tend to be solutions-oriented fixers.
A few chapter titles give you an idea of what to expect: Don’t Leave the Seat Up; Give Her Time to Herself; Cherish Her Children; Actively Seek Your Wife’s Insights. Most sections include scripture references from the Bible, and all include relevant quotes from other sources.
Examples of content:
“When we fail in the area of long-term patience, it is often due to a lack of vision. We fail to see what the other person could become; we see them only as they are now.” (p. 100)
“Condescension crushes fellowship. It erodes trust and creates unnecessary obstacles that must later be hurdled if unity is to be restored.” (p. 139)
“When grudges are held, the relationship suffers or is non-existent. Forgiveness allows healing to begin.” (p. 149)
I was curious to see if Flanders would mention extended family and was gratified when he did. “You didn’t just marry her; you married her family. In some families this is an easy and pleasant task, in others it is not. Do your best. If it is hard on you, it is even harder on her, because she is the one with the relationships to maintain. As with her children, kindness to her extended family translates into kindness to her.” (pp. 120-121)
My Rating: 5 stars. Highly recommended for those who would like to improve and grow their marriages. There are lots of great ‘date your wife’ suggestions here as well.
Jennifer Flanders has written a companion volume, 25 Ways to Communicate Respect to Your Husband and I’m going to get it. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander, right?
Doug maintains a blog at http://alltruthisgodstruth.com; Jennifer’s is http://lovinglifeathome.com and you can also connect with the couple online at www.flandersfamily.info
Note: I received this book for free from the publisher through the Book Crash review program in exchange for my honest review.